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How do I (26F) let go of the fact it's not happening for me and relax enough to date?

I am trying really hard not to be sad, mad, jealous and petty over this but it's really bugging me and I need it not to. Everywhere I look people my age are in relationships, getting married, already married, having kids and being "adulty adults". I am 26. Just turned it. I am living with my great aunt and mother because my aunt has dementia. I don't work, I can't because of her care. My mom works so I have to be free to clean, cook and care for my aunt basically 24/7. I feel stuck but there's not much I can do about it until she dies. A year ago my boyfriend of 4 months died. When he died there was a book that showed up that was engraved with my first name and his surname. I knew he wanted to get married. I really wanted that. I wanted kids. I still want it it just starts to feel like I'm trapped in this hell hole where I'll never get out. Where I'll never be free. My friends are all in long term (5+ year) relationships or married and I want ...

/u/LGBTQ_and_Furry on Tell me you are asexual without telling me you are asexual

Same TwT September 09, 2022 at 12:47AM

/u/monoview on Tell me you are asexual without telling me you are asexual

everyone simping over veiny hands and finds it sexually attractive and i don't get it September 09, 2022 at 12:47AM

Is being bad at communication a good enough excuse?

F(21) I saw this guy over the summer, and things were great. I go to school abroad, and so does he, and I was back home only for the summer, and he's planning to go back home in the winter. When we started hanging out more, he told me he really liked me and told all of his guy friends. He also said it was very unusual for him to consistently see a girl (as I stayed over every night), and he would never catch feelings, but he did for me. Before I left back to school, all of his friends and family knew about me; he met my family and took a day off work to drop me off at the airport. When I got back to school, we were communicating all the time however, due to the 11-hour time difference, it became difficult. One night I had a bad panic attack (due to my PTSD with relationships), and I unsent all of my messages to him. He called me at 4 am wanting to call, and we spoke for 4 hours he admitted when I ghosted him, it made him pretty upset, and I apologized because honestly, I really ...

/u/IRIDESCENT_SORROW on Tell me you are asexual without telling me you are asexual

Chose to keep being a virgin, and it wasn't for the lack of options. September 08, 2022 at 11:26PM

/u/I_serve_Anubis on Not necessary aphobia, but I was talking to my friend a couple days back about me not really desiring relationships when they said this. I don't think they meant it in a baad way, but the mood was just... iffy

The downvote was most likely an instinctive reaction to you saying your antisexual. A lot of ace people ( myself included ) have had a lot of toxic interactions with antisex people. Especially sex favourable asexuals, the antisex sub has a lot of aphobia, and slut shaming. So a lot of ace people will instantly go on the defensive, expecting an attack when confronted with an antisex individual. September 08, 2022 at 11:24PM

help! I dread going on dinner dates

I 24F met a guy 21M a few weeks ago and we've been on 2 group dates. He wants to do a one on one dinner date and idk why but the thought of that brings on major stress and makes me feel uncomfortable. I know I have some dating anxiety and usually prefer to do activities like hikes or walks for dates. Plus it's so awkward at the end having to offer to split but feeling like he should pay. Any advice? I could recommend another activity but I feel like it's rude if he came up with the idea and invited me. Dating should be fun but the thought of a formal dinner date scares me 🥲 Submitted September 08, 2022 at 02:16AM I 24F met a guy 21M a few weeks ago and we've been on 2 group dates. He wants to do a one on one dinner date and idk why but the thought of that brings on major stress and makes me feel uncomfortable. I know I have some dating anxiety and usually prefer to do activities like hikes or walks for dates. Plus it's so awkward at the end having to offer t...