Oh this is ridiculous. I definitely relate to compulsively hiding things even if I’m doing perfectly normal stuff. My mother has a habit of making fun of stuff I’m doing/watching (in a non-mean way) especially if there is a conventionally attractive man in there. One time she literally insisted I had a crush on Chris Pine in the Star Trek movies even though I spent the whole time hating his version of Kirk. She didn’t know I was asexual (neither did I though) and I’m glad I was, because I literally had a fear that when I did find a boyfriend, she’d then do the same teasing about us. Now that she knows she mostly appears to have stopped, but the damage is done. I actually think it’s more because she’s going through a man-hating stage and most of her comments are now about that. There is also the time she went through my internet browser completely out of nowhere and without asking me, and also read my notes app. She wasn’t even mad, just worried and/or curious about what was on there...

yes May 24, 2021 at 12:04AM

I can't speak for every asexual but I'm 19 and knew that I was ace since I was 13 years old and nothing has changed within those 6 years. Think about it this way, being gay, straight, lesbian, etc. is not a choice, just like being asexual, so it doesn't simply "go away". Maybe the person finds out that they're demi-sexual or grey-sexual? Then that would be the valid case but even then, these are still on the asexual spectrum. May 24, 2021 at 12:00AM

It sorta depends. I don’t really come out to anyone but my closest friends and intermediate family. All of my other friends i just talk about with them, because their 🏳️‍🌈 friendly and it works well, even if they didn’t know May 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

fingerguns whilst slowly moving further and further away until eventually disappearing into the abyss * May 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

You can enjoy music even if you've never been in the situation. Good music is good music. Gatekeeping is silly. There isn't any prereqs for enjoying music. Fun fact: You're still allowed to enjoy the 1812 Overture even if you've never been in a battle with muskets and cannons too! :P May 23, 2021 at 11:59PM

So happy for you!! May 23, 2021 at 11:56PM