I'm not the asexual one in the relationship. January 16, 2021 at 12:03AM

i think i became resentful bc i felt so broken since I wasn’t doing the things every other girl was doing, but i knew that it was bc of something i couldn’t change about myself. so everyone else was just ignorant to me. Which is partially true, but there’s also no need for me to feel resentful for that bc i’ve never told anyone and most ppl know absolutely nothing about asexuality. So i’m glad i’m self aware in that and catch myself. I’m sex positive bc I think everyone should be able to do what they want safely and consensually. Plus those old, traditional views on sex can sometimes be harmful and misogynistic. But at the same time i’m so sex-repulsed that i just don’t understand it, so sometimes i feel ingenuine. i wish i had grown up like you did.... thank you so much for responding!! January 16, 2021 at 12:03AM

Maybe we've been seeing different movies but what I've noticed is sexual movies are usually considered dirty and "clean" romance movies that just end in French kissing and fountains are more glorified. I feel like you being asexual can't really grasp what desire feels like for us because believe me it's not about ego or media. Even in societies with heavily regulated media sex is still abound and practiced regularly amongst the unmarried (if necessary in secret). January 16, 2021 at 12:01AM

Oh okay. January 15, 2021 at 11:58PM

I think most people agree that a Simp is an individual that provides support (usually in a monetary fashion) to a woman with the hopes that the woman will recognize them. The simp does this solely because the woman is attractive. In addition the simp also knows that they have no chance romantically or sexually with the woman and persists anyway for the slight amount of female attention. January 15, 2021 at 11:58PM

I’m sorry to say but that answer definitely sounds like a sexual trauma response. Just look at the language you’ve used - you’d force yourself. Something you might find useful, rather than trying to reason out why you should do something you don’t want to do, is to consider the person you’d be doing it with. The hypothetical man. You’d be with him because you liked him, right? Because he was decent, trustworthy and you were in some sense attracted to him. I’m assuming this because why would you force yourself to have sex with someone lesser than these traits? Now this fair, attractive man sleeps with you, assuming you’re enthusiastically consenting when you are not. How would he feel, knowing what you’d done? How would he feel about you? How would he feel about himself, knowing what you’d used him to do, even to the point of potential trauma? It’s never going to be anything good, right? Which is why two people both happily consenting is important. Having sex with a man for any othe...

right it’s so freaking confusing! honestly makes me glad i’m ace bc i can imagine how stressful it is to go through that sexual awakening thing when all you hear is that it’s “wrong” but also that’s what you have to do. it stresses ME out and i don’t even have sex. i think it’s easier now to avoid that kind of talk though since we’ve progressed so much January 15, 2021 at 11:53PM