ugh yeah. i used to follow lives_in_a_society and now i am really disappointed in her. she said that white ace people are trying to "demisexual their way out of white privledge" which honestly shocked me because one: i have never seen an ace person compare themselves to struggles of poc and two: the only people i've seen do that are other white gay people. and idk if you've been hearing the drama around nonbrianary on tik tok but they "apparently" brought ace discourse originally saying that they're ace but now theyre kind of derailing with some of their hot takes being kinda misogynistic+transphobic and people are using that to just be aphobic. idk i just don't know why we have to argue and pick and choose who we deem valid enough to be accepted edit: sorry this comment didn't add anything and is literally just talking ab drama lmao December 02, 2020 at 12:03AM

I'm so happy that this made you happy😊😁 December 02, 2020 at 12:03AM

Coworker - they thought I was hot and hit on me; I was curious and found them challenging/interesting. We started dating, were both up front about not wanting to proceed to sex early in a relationship, and the relationship grew for a while until it eventually fell apart when my interest in intercourse never really grew, but theirs did. December 02, 2020 at 12:00AM

Once I got downvoted by someone on the demisexual sub by making a comment about how there are asexuals who are sex favorable🤷‍♀️ December 01, 2020 at 11:59PM

I don't understand. Usually those feelings about sex come from religion, parents or traumatic sexual experiences, etc. December 01, 2020 at 11:59PM

Obviously not. And I even said that I’m aromantic and asexual and they still said that I’m straight and cishet. I literally don’t feel attraction to anybody- I’m definitely not heterosexual or heteroromantic and yet they still didn’t care. And no asexual is cishet so I don’t even know what they were trying to get at. Exclusionists tend to make up bullshit arguments to justify them being an asshole. December 01, 2020 at 11:57PM

I use to give in to them when I was younger and when I did, I felt disgusted with myself for weeks on end. December 01, 2020 at 11:55PM