I'm trying to figure out how this is related to asexuality, but honest I am clueless. Reddit is weird sometimes. November 12, 2020 at 12:04AM

Oh my goodness this is so sweet! I’m really happy for the two of you, congratulations on your engagement and thank you for sharing!💜 November 11, 2020 at 11:58PM

My view (no personal experience...yet. I'm ace and a theoretical but so far never a practicing poly) is that the link between them is that being ace/aro and being poly both cause you to question the heteronormative societal view of relationships in a different way from how you question it if you're gay/bi/lesbian only, or how you don't question it if you're straight. What is this view? I would describe it as the societal expectation that the most important relationship someone can have is a sexual and romantic one between a man and woman, leading to marriage and children. Being gay/bi/lesbian brings up the question, why does it have to be a man and a woman? But for ace/aro/poly, it goes further. Example meta questions about this that are natural to ask for both ace/aro and poly people: what is a relationship? Why should a relationship have to include sex? Why does it also need to include romance? Why does one relationship need to be the most important? Why does it ne...

Hmm, I think I understand what you're feeling. Maybe not exactly, but to a point. The labels I use are bialterous aroace [I am also polyam]. Ive got alterous/aesthetic/sensual attracted to guys/enbys/women. But not really romantic and definatly not sexual [sex repulsed]. I guess i am aego [I'd be homo-aego, even though I'm bi, I don't think about women at all after hours if you catch what im throwing] but I just don't use it as a label, cause i dont see why anyone should know how i get off, lol. Anyway, I personally dont care a lot about labels, I use them so its easier to talk about things and to be a part of somthing with like minds, ect. Honeslty, i would just stick with asexual, demi-heteromantic, and bi/pan-aego, it doesnt have to mean you are sexually or romantically atracted to everyone. You know your feelings best. Maybe others will have better insight, hope this at least helps a little. :] November 11, 2020 at 11:53PM

This piece is well written. I relate to all the feelings portrayed too. Honestly being asexual is so difficult. Questioning your sexuality every day and trying to convince yourself that's just because you're depressed. Fuck society. November 11, 2020 at 11:52PM

I think the only one i think of is that one guy on pornhub who just does normal everyday things with no sex at all. Or at least i think that exists based on the memes i have seen. November 11, 2020 at 11:49PM

Just got one because of this post and mine was only 1$ I’m so happy, they also had a small/medium/large for sizes so that’s helpful too!! November 11, 2020 at 11:47PM