I understand why you might doubt yourself and start looking back at your own actions to see what you did. However, you didn't need to do anything for this to happen. You could have said you were asexual from the very beginning and he still might have thought he had a chance. In your position I would be very careful to avoid being around him in the future or claims he makes that he's sorry and is actually ok with being friends. July 11, 2020 at 11:56PM

I guess it depends on the context of the kissing? Like the type of kiss, the feelings behind it. It's a grey area straddling romantic, sexual, and sensual attraction. Personally, I consider myself a highly romantic ace, and I am super into like face kisses and short kisses, but longer make out sessions are not for me as I get bored and I find them kind of gross honestly Disinterest/dislike for kissing can maybe be a sign of aromaticism, or it can just be disliking the specific action, so I would suggest looking for any other signs before settling on the label July 11, 2020 at 11:55PM

thanks so much :) My friends have already had quite the chat with him and have asked that he don't come back unless he's willing to treat everyone with respect. They also warned him that if it happens again, it won't be just an apologize and move on scenario. I really appreciate your input and everyone else here :)) July 11, 2020 at 11:48PM

I’m so sorry the majority of your family members reacted so doubtful. You are incredibly brave to come out to them, congratulations on that! I‘m only out to five people, none of them family so I’m afraid I can’t understand your situation as well as others. Still, if you are open to any suggestions, maybe talk to your mother about how you are feeling if you haven’t already. Explain it to her, if she has questions, answer them, questions show that she is at least trying to understand you. Your sisters viewpoint is surprisingly narrow (I don’t know how old she is but how can she not know at least about homosexuality?). I guess the best you can do is talk to her about it and maybe inform her a bit. However, you cannot force change and it’s only a suggestion, I’m sure others could offer you better advice. Regardless, I wish you all the best and I hope your family will come around! Stay safe c: July 11, 2020 at 11:46PM

Unfortunately, there are hateful people everywhere, including inside minority communities. One of the most transphobic things I've ever heard irl was from a gay man. Some people just suck, and being a minority doesn't change that. July 11, 2020 at 11:46PM

sounds like you probably are on the ace spectrum. I would say you sound asexual. I feel kind of the same way but with both men & women I think. I feel a little more romantically attracted to women, but I'm not actually sure July 11, 2020 at 11:45PM

Y'all are saltier than /r/childfree , and that is a sub about being living salt mines, i dont think you're in any position to tell anyone to calm down July 11, 2020 at 11:42PM