Honestly I don't even want to be included in the lgbt community. I'll always be happy to call myself an ally, but my orientation doesn't need to be included to be valid. I wont be any less asexual just because someone says asexuals don't fit in with lgbt. They can do their thing, and we can do our thing and we can all be supportive of eachother without needing to be in the same club. July 02, 2020 at 11:45PM

To some extent, I understand where they're coming from. Being homosexual is punished a lot more severe (on a global scale) than being asexual. At the same time, I can't help but disagree with the condition that in order to be part of the lgbtq+ community you have to be suffering death penalty or hate crimes. Asexuals suffer too, just in a different way than other members of the community. It might not be as severe, but we're suffering. It's so hard to wrap your head around a construct you can't understand but it being thrown in your face through media and social environments. You can't help but wonder if there's something wrong with you, in fact you'll be told there's something wrong with you for not wanting something you clearly should. I can't help but wonder how comparing our pain is bringing us any further. Isn't the goal of the lgbtq+ community to create a safe space for everyone that's different from our heteronormative society? H...

The onus is on allies to educate themselves, not on us to educate them. I appreciate allies, and I appreciate that they want to learn. I especially appreciate members of the LGBT+ community who have the patience, knowledge, and eloquence to educate others. I only speak for myself when I say that I'm tired of putting energy into people who haven't learned what the IA stands for. I'm happy to talk to allies who have already put some effort in, but my bar is somewhere above knowing that ace is included in LGBT+. I wouldn't answer that question from an internet stranger I wasn't even having a conversation with, and I don't think it should be expected. July 02, 2020 at 11:40PM

Yesss to all of that! Sometimes I think I would soon have exploded from all the conflicting influences. July 02, 2020 at 11:40PM

There is no norm/standard amount or frequency for having crushes. Everyone is different. I had a constant stream of different crushes as a kid but they never meant anything. As an adult I haven't had a crush in 7ish years but have been in a relationship for over 2. July 02, 2020 at 11:38PM

The first part they are saying that cishet aroaces are not part of the LGBTQ+ community, because they are cishet. (Basically they are saying that aros and aces aren't part of the LGBTQ+ community) July 02, 2020 at 11:35PM

Think we should start an acey facey post trend tbh July 02, 2020 at 11:28PM