Hello, I'm not really sure how to start. I'm 42, male, and I live in a small town. I'm going through a divorce. I'm not trying to immediately find another girlfriend or spouse, my marriage lasted 17 years, but I would like to go on a date and talk to someone. Have some fun, maybe got out to eat and see a movie or have a day date and play mini golf or go bowling. Anything to curb this feeling of loneliness. I have no idea how to do that, though. We did everything together so I never made actual friends, just work colleagues. I would like to find a woman to just talk to and hang out. I'm not looking to hook up with someone, just share a couple laughs with. Anyway, I'm sorry, I ramble. My question is how do you find someone to date? It seems like there are rules that I don't know about. Don't start a conversation with Hi, or don't ask them how they are. I'm way out of my zone. Please help! Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:58PM Hello, I'm...

Hey Everyone! I hope the weeks been going well for everyone - we're almost to the weekend! I wanted to post tonight about the golden rule - treat everyone the way you want to be treated. This is generally where I operate from: everyone deserves kindness, understanding, and support. Ive been in a few relationships over the last two years where I was treated a little "less than well," but kept falling back on this rule to demonstrate to my partner how I expected to be treated. Looking back I should have been a little more assertive when speaking up and verbalizing how I felt, but actions speak equally as loud. Anyway - I seriously feel like this whole "golden" rule kind of fell by the wayside in the dating world anymore. Does anyone else feel like that or am I just accidentallly dating folks who are putzes? Oh! And to clarify, I do not expect to be treated like royalty in a relationship. But I dont expect to be talked down to, made the butt of jokes, and inva...

Ultimately I do think there's a fine line here. It is sort of possible to want sex for a reason other than feeling attracted to a person, but making broad statements about how you can "desire and seek out sex" and not have that conflict with being asexual, is definitely confusing, because that's sort of a weird edge case in a vaguely-defined border zone where finding the line requires analyzing the motivations behind the action, which is pretty subjective. November 15, 2019 at 12:13AM

Yeah I know I'm just ignoring it at this stage. Getting annoyed just gives the to yell at us for lmao. November 15, 2019 at 12:11AM

She is pretty much all my classes in college and since the past 3 weeks we have been hanging out with a small group of friends during and after school. This week there were no classes and we been staying at a diffirent friends house she is into me as well. Now the question is, do i just tell her I like her or do i ask her if she wants to go on a date? Never been in a relationship before so im kind of clueless on how to handle this situation. She just turned 17 last month and i'm turning 20 in like 3 months, is this still acceptable? Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:12PM She is pretty much all my classes in college and since the past 3 weeks we have been hanging out with a small group of friends during and after school. This week there were no classes and we been staying at a diffirent friends house she is into me as well. Now the question is, do i just tell her I like her or do i ask her if she wants to go on a date? Never been in a relationship before so im kind of cluele...

So, we've (me 17, she 15) been dating for one month and a half i think, we're not yet officially a couple. In this month, we've never been on dates and rarely spent time alone - we usually go out with our friends, but I'd like to spend some time together just the two of us... But when I asked her out she said "i am afraid i may get uncomfortable" - so i asked her "why? are you afraid of getting bored with me? or do you just dont like that people see you with a boy maybe?" she said it was the fact that she does not want to get bored (so i kinda started panicking, cause dammit, i am so boring...) she said "i do know we dont spend much time alone" and also "i dont wanna hurt you" so what? what should I/we do? 'cause we love each other but our relationship seems focused on the love and physical contact we give each other, but I think we need some time alone, dammit it is almost annoying (i was thinking about this: when we'r...

Title says it all, I’ve gotten a new boyfriend, but he doesn’t know how to kiss. I’m his first. I know how to kiss but I know it’s just going to be awkward since he doesn’t know what to do Edit: We’re both 17 Submitted November 14, 2019 at 11:33PM Title says it all, I’ve gotten a new boyfriend, but he doesn’t know how to kiss. I’m his first. I know how to kiss but I know it’s just going to be awkward since he doesn’t know what to doEdit: We’re both 17