Me and this person have been friends for around a week and my friends are saying i need to ask them out. I believe that its still too soon. This person didn't know I existed until a week ago. Also idk if this related but they're pan, which i figure means that i need to be closer to the person before i can ask them out. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, first reddit post ever, zero clue how to format these things. Any advice? Submitted January 27, 2024 at 12:11AM Me and this person have been friends for around a week and my friends are saying i need to ask them out. I believe that its still too soon. This person didn't know I existed until a week ago. Also idk if this related but they're pan, which i figure means that i need to be closer to the person before i can ask them out. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, first reddit post ever, zero clue how to format these things. Any advice?

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