So I (m27) met this girl (f21) one month ago and I am lost. At the beginning of the night/party we met, she reached me out and asked me if I remembered her. I told her no, because I couldn't remember her name or what discussions we had had, but I did remember that we had briefly met and that we had spent a while chatting in a kitchen with some other people. She reminded me her name and I apologized, as I was slowly remembering who she was and what we had talked about. The party continued and finally we kissed each other. Just after the kiss she ordered an Uber and we went to her home and had a hook up. The day after, I felt extremely happy and couldn't take her out of my mind despite a hard working day. So I decided to send her a message to thank her for the nice moment we had spent together. We chatted a bit and I told her I was not comfortable with having sex with someone and just forgetting them afterwards, that I wanted to know if we could meet again. She kindly answered...

LEAVE, please stay safe December 27, 2023 at 11:27PM

Well, you're demi, so I guess you don't get celebrity crushes? I stopped dating a while ago so those work for me, and I have occasionally thought about exes but not frequently. I'm a bit grey. I don't need the fantasy either, but it's more fun with one. December 27, 2023 at 11:24PM

forgive my ignorance but isnt this just saying that people who are queer come in many forms and so we can't just broadly place them into strict categories along with the expectations that come with those categories? and the last part is just saying that queer people who are in a heterosexual relationship are still queer? perhaps im missing the subtext December 27, 2023 at 11:19PM

It could also be romantic attraction, I think, but I consider those things to be very low key under the sexual umbrella. I'm a lil grey though. December 27, 2023 at 11:17PM

This is going to sound weird, but you didn’t mention it so I figured it might be worth asking: Have you been diagnosed with or suspect you might have ADHD? One of the big challenges for people with ADHD is starting complex tasks, and it often gets classified as laziness but it’s not. Given how you described that I figured it might be worth asking. December 26, 2023 at 11:10PM

I am 16 and only felt it once but I am.not so sure December 26, 2023 at 11:06PM