Hello everyone, I've been a long-time lurker, but this is my first time posting. I need some advice regarding a relationship I'm in. I (25M) have known this girl (26F, let's call her A) for a year now. Everything about A was amazing until two months ago when we started dating. I am serious about her and want to marry her as soon as we both know each other well enough. However, I'm facing a few issues and don't know how to navigate them. Recently, A took this examination, and her result was out a couple of months ago. She failed in every paper with huge margins, but the problem is that she showed everyone a different result that turned out to be fake and edited (she still showed everyone that she failed but just one paper and by barely a few marks) I discovered this from a mutual friend, who heard it from another mutual of A (let's call her M). A initially denied it, claiming that M was lying because he had feelings for her and she rejected him (this is another...

I (37m/fluid) feel inconsistent, keep neurotically changing my dating profile daily, and am wondering if anyone can help me feel settled or more certain about what I'm looking for... I've only had one 12yr LTR and besides that have been on maybe 15 other dates in my life. I prefer close connections and great familiarity before anything sexual, but I also don't really expect anything to last and am very rarely attracted. Part of my impetus in looking for "casual" is that even when I'm attracted it's inconsistent and often impermanent. I think I'm just looking for short term (3-12 dates with some hooking up) but am consciously aiming for not just a ONS but enough of a connection that it's somewhere in-between a hookup and dating. I wouldn't want to end a good thing... but I have very rarely (only 3x) felt like something could last. I feel too bad about perpetuating expectations or misleading anyone to reside in seductions, and I very commonly s...

Kind of a rant. But I cant fucking stand chatting. Either Im just really bad at it or super emotionally unavailable, but ts just so boring. HoW wAs YouR DaY? GoodMorNiNG. goOdNigHt. 🤮 Im not interested in sexting or nudes or anything like that either. Why cant it just be "Hey, lets meet at 19:00 at X bar on next Friday and forget about each other in the mean time?" "Sounds good lets do that!". When im at home and my partner is physically not there I just want to be in my little cave alone. Can you give me any example of non-boring chats? Submitted December 19, 2023 at 12:14AM Kind of a rant. But I cant fucking stand chatting. Either Im just really bad at it or super emotionally unavailable, but ts just so boring. HoW wAs YouR DaY? GoodMorNiNG. goOdNigHt. 🤮 Im not interested in sexting or nudes or anything like that either. Why cant it just be "Hey, lets meet at 19:00 at X bar on next Friday and forget about each other in the mean time?" "Sou...

Thankfully, I've rarely felt religious judgement for my asexuality, but I've been very vigilant for it and as an ace Christian who's always been super pro LGBT rights even before I knew I was ace, I have long been extremely intentional about finding Christian spaces that don't care what people are. In this case, whether or not you want to cut them out is up to you, but I have to ask a hard question - if you brought them a partner who was a nonbinary or trans or a woman, what do you think they would say or do? If your partner told you they were uncomfortable around these two and they didn't want to see them again, how would you respond? As for what you can do, if you want to try and reach them still, you can look into resources for progressive Christianity and all of the mountains of evidence that no one chooses to be gay. There are a lot of churches with scriptural stances on this that aren't just "All gay bad." Maybe do some research into those and...

Yeah my parents are like this .They are no longer in my life. This is the best way to deal with it. December 17, 2023 at 11:08PM

That is really hard, for both of you. You clearly love each other a lot and are really really mismatched. It will be hard to let it go, but I believe that is probably where you are heading. Most relationships from high school do not last as long as yours have. And it is probably time - neither of you are going to be happy like this. December 16, 2023 at 11:07PM

Can relate but I don't have any solutions for you unfourtunaly, being a grey ace is living between two worlds honestly. December 15, 2023 at 11:18PM