I am autistic and have trauma around physical contact so I hate being touched. I have a list of people who I let touch me and that’s it. I used to be a really physically affectionate person but I can’t stand contact now so I’m just touch starved. But even when I wasn’t traumatized I still hated being touched without warning and I only let certain people. June 12, 2023 at 11:45PM

Vibes June 12, 2023 at 11:45PM

Yeah I figured, also my hobbies tend to be very female oriented which would make that a bit difficult June 12, 2023 at 11:44PM

I (24F) matched with a guy (34-36M: don’t want to give out his exact age) (for the purpose of this post we’ll call him Chris) on Bumble on February 17th; remember the exact day because it was my friends birthday. The day we matched I was in NJ (I live on Long Island, Chris lives in one of the NYC boroughs). So I probably wouldn’t have ever matched with him if I wasn’t in NJ or NYC since we live 2 ish hours apart. We had really good conversation on Bumble, and the same day we matched he talked to me the whole 2 hour trip home from NJ. He even said how his birthday was the following week, and that “God sent this Long Island girl to him for his birthday.” After that conversation we continued texting and calling each other. We made plans to meet but he canceled 2 hours before because he had a tough day at work. We continued talking but didn’t make plans because he was moving apartments. I eventually let the conversation fizzle out because I felt that I was putting in too much effort. Even...

Do you get attracted only after bonding with someone? You could say you're a sex averse demisexual in that case. If you don't need a bond to be attracted, you could say sex averse greysexual. Or you could just say you're aegosexual or just an ace. Honestly whatever feels most comfortable for you. Unless you have a reaction of disgust or extreme discomfort about sex, averse is the label for aces like you who just aren't sex favorable. Repulsed doesn't mean the same thing. Edit: also as for asking if it's normal or not, that question won't really get you anywhere. Asexuality has so much variation, and something being rare just comes with the territory. I am a demisexual who's not sure yet if they actually want to have sex bc my attraction is so rare that I have trouble adjusting to it when it happens. I'm also sex repulsed otherwise, but am only repulsed by sex if someone gets sexual towards me or hits on me. I haven’t met another ace quite like me ...

Certainly! I wouldn't want to be anything else. June 09, 2023 at 11:10PM

Generally I’m not, either, but have you read the book? This robot is a very fleshed out and complex character. Oh what books/authors have asexual representation?!! I haven’t heard of any and would love to know! :) June 08, 2023 at 11:19PM