Idk yet, I’ve never gotten the chance to cuddle with a partner before :( September 24, 2021 at 11:41PM

The Magnus archives! Not a book, Its a horror podcast but it’s very good the main character is ace and has a romance with another character that is central to the story. There’s a few fics on ao3 about them that really helped me come to terms with being ace. Might be confusing though if you haven’t listened to the podcast. September 24, 2021 at 11:41PM

People aren't naturally resistant to new ideas though. We can be very curious about them in fact, because our brains are literally wired to seek out novelty! No, this pattern occurs because we live in a society that actively demonizes anyone who falls outside the allocishet boundaries that have been put up for the sake of social cohesion. It's learned behavior. This is also why we have people who reject bigotry against their own part of the LGBTQIA+ umbrella but not the others; they haven't examined the beliefs they learned from a society that taught them to hate all of us, even though they had to work through internalized negatively to accept themselves. They make the mistake of stopping at their own comfort and ignoring the rest. September 24, 2021 at 11:38PM

a great part of the lgbta+ fight was/is about being proud of who you love and want to become intimate (sexually) with. queer sex/love is a symbol of power, i reckon. so that's why it is so praised. but you cannot talk about sex without talking about asexuality (same with love and aromanticism). i just wish people would understand how related those are. i'm aroace and i want my identity to be known. oh, and by the way, i'm sorry for your trauma, but i'm glad you got to understand yourself. you're strong :) September 24, 2021 at 11:37PM

When I touch myself down there I pretty much feel nothing, it's like touching other ports of my body. When I'm touched is not always that it feels good , but still not that good. I should mention I'm a virgin. Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:28AM When I touch myself down there I pretty much feel nothing, it's like touching other ports of my body. When I'm touched is not always that it feels good , but still not that good.I should mention I'm a virgin.

I’m the guy. I have never been in a sexual relationship before due to my Catholic upbringing. I had some anxiety getting intimate with my partner of 2 weeks but managed to last for hours to my surprise. The first night I didn’t reach an orgasm and I thought it was maybe my nerves. Now it’s been three nights straight that I can’t reach an orgasm no matter what we do. I can reach an orgasm by myself, in my own home, but the same tricks don’t work when I’m with her. So far it’s only been her climaxing several times, which brings me satisfaction. We are both selfless lovers who want to please the other so it’s frustrating that I can’t climax to show her she’s enough for me, and I really am having a good time with her. A little more background info. I had been watching porn multiple times a day over the years, but have stopped since meeting her. I can maintain an erection for hours when I’m with her. Stay active and I’m in really good shape, but I may be in a performance trap of really t...

Down a rabbit hole of extreme sex and or porn and find I need more extreme material or sex to get off now. I enjoy it still but feel this might not be leading to a healthy place...thoughts? Submitted September 25, 2021 at 12:45AM Down a rabbit hole of extreme sex and or porn and find I need more extreme material or sex to get off now. I enjoy it still but feel this might not be leading to a healthy place...thoughts?