Closet-safe? What does that mean? Also, nice acelet. 😉 August 09, 2021 at 12:03AM

I don't think you explained responsive desire correctly. It's more like physical foreplay -> mental desire. In that order. And I often have a hard time deciding if my wife is just 100% responsive desire, or sex-favorable asexual, and what the difference is. I have also heard many counselors say that in relationships with mismatched libidos, about 25% of the time it is the woman higher than the man. 75% it's man is higher. Based on that, I wouldn't be surprised if womens asexuality was also more common. August 09, 2021 at 12:03AM

I think it is. I have heard of, men especially, saying that as they age they lose some or all of that desire. Some even say it is a relief to not feel that all the time. Like the horney teen years were just too much and it wore on them. I feel like too many people believe sex drive and libido should just stay the same all your life, but nothing else does so why would that? And asexual is just lack of sexual attraction. Maybe it was easier to feel like having sex as a younger person due to raging hormones like you said or just the fact that it was newer and had more unknowns, things to try. and now you have done a lot you are maybe just not into it anymore. Even if you have had sex you might have been asexual if you didn't feel any sexual attraction. Because you can lack sexual attraction to people and still have sex. hope that made sense. :) August 09, 2021 at 12:03AM

Ex educator now. When we discover mass ignorance in whole populations of people, we inject the topic (sexuality) into the program of essential formal education. Sexuality is the focus of this Reddit area. The cause of lack of formal education, based on scientific facts. Cure: government pressure to fix the cause of the problem. Problem is that biology had created baby making machinery, too successfully. Like a runaway virus. This planet is now on the middle of it's Sixth Planetary Mass Extinction. Does this current virus (homo sapiens sapiens, HSS) continue to run wild? Or does HSS have enough intelligence to stop its forced over sexualities? Will HSS ever discover that there is more to living than being a victim of the genitals? Read Reddit, Talk Support, etc for the next exciting episodes! August 09, 2021 at 12:02AM

Sounds like ficto- tutelary attraction . August 09, 2021 at 12:01AM

An arousal response and experiencing sexual pleasure are extremely common when engaging in such activities. That's why they are considered se ual/have a sexual connotation for the vast majority of people August 08, 2021 at 11:59PM

I encourage you to get it over with as soon as possible because sexual compatibility is a big thing in relationships. Remember this is about compatibility of two people and if she wants sex that isn’t compatible with you! It isn’t just about you selling yourself to her! August 08, 2021 at 11:57PM