I actually discovered "aceflux" on this subreddit in a meme. I dunno if it's just me, but it feels nice to have words to describe what I'm feeling. It means I'm not alone. June 22, 2021 at 12:05AM

Oooh you've gave me a lot to think about, thank you for your reply, its unfortunately not saved me from the "getting to the bottom of it" syndrome but its gave me a lot to think about :D I didn't entirely understand your first paragraph, sex negative cultures? Like ones that don't speak about it? As for the last sentence oh man.. June 22, 2021 at 12:05AM

All humanity romantic makes it sounds wholesome. I dont mind! June 22, 2021 at 12:03AM

Yep though I was bi or pan I liked people from across the spectrum equally and found both guys, girls and nb attractive little did I realize that no that is not sexual or romantic attraction but ascetic. To be fair I was also a really dumb aroace June 22, 2021 at 12:01AM

Its on the website!!! June 21, 2021 at 11:59PM

cakesexual spotted! June 21, 2021 at 11:59PM

Hey there! I had a very similar experience to the one you described, aside from me being a guy - I vaguely remember a 'crush' when I was like 5 or 6, and beyond that the most attraction I've felt to another person is along the lines of "When/if I get a girlfriend, it'll be someone like her". The criteria for that was basically be a girl and be enjoyable to hang out with, certainly no butterflies or "strong and strange urges" as I'd had them described to me. Celebrities were the same too; I could tell which ones were attractive, but it didn't and doesn't actually mean anything to me. It's more like I've just built up the mental image of what other people find attractive so I know what they're talking about. It's perfectly fine to ask questions if you're not sure about something (hell, you could even say that's the best time to be asking questions), so no need to worry about that. Unfortunately, I can't real...