I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be invalidating. I don't question your experience, and I don't doubt you experienced what your experienced. Please me try again. I'll be more specific and concrete. I don't know if you identify as allo or ace now, but you seem to be saying that you were allo when you were very young. did you know you were allo at that age, or did you figure out what those feelings meant later on? i understand that you felt differently towards girls then boys. but i feel differently towards girls then boys now, and for my whole life. the thing is that i thought those feelings were sexual, but, on reflection, i think i was wrong about that. when i want to hold hands with my wife now, or even if i want to kiss her, it is not a sexual feeling in that it is not a precursor to sex. there is just a symbolism to those acts. but i had to do stuff with people before i understood that the urge that i felt after a kiss was not sexual. i had to try things to ...

How would not having this options help anyone? April 27, 2021 at 12:03AM

That's different from sexual attraction. That's romantic attraction or something like that. April 26, 2021 at 11:51PM

I keep hearing about diff aspec dating apps but none of them seem to take off. Which is frustrating, since it’s kind of hard to have an effective dating app without a solid user base April 26, 2021 at 11:50PM

Since you don't experience sexual attraction then yeah, you're still asexual. Aces can be sex positive, sex neutral, sex repulsed, or can flop between all of those depending on a number of variables for each person April 26, 2021 at 11:46PM

Yes you still are asexual. If you still like sex but aren’t sexually attracted to people, your most likely a sex-favorable ace. Wich is what you just described. Ultimately it’s up to you if you consider yourself ace April 26, 2021 at 11:42PM

As a so ace it almost hurts kinda guy, it’s not the sexualization that bothers me. It’s the objectification. Honestly I’d prefer it if everyone just didn’t care about it so much. Like people being naked or having sex shouldn’t be a big deal, but we make it a big deal and it just ruins it. Plus making it taboo just makes it worse for everyone cause then it’s hidden everywhere and slipped into everything. April 26, 2021 at 11:41PM