Realised this was a bit long after writing this, so skip to the TL;DR if you want. Recommend reading the whole thing to get the full context though. So I met this girl back in February, went on a date and the chemistry was amazing between us. Even texting together was super fun. Then ya boi Corona hit and she had to go back to her home country. After a couple months of texting she said that, even though she felt a click between us too, cause of the whole pandemic situ it would be better if we chatted again when she came back to the UK in September. So September comes round and she messages me saying she's back. We end up going on 3 dates which go really well, except I feel the last one. She comes round for a drink and to play some Switch. End up playing truth or drink until like 1AM which meant we found out a lot more about each other and I was kind of falling for this girl which doesn't often happen when I meet someone new. End up kissing on the sofa and she sleeps round, b...

Hi, could use a script or opinions on what to say. I’ve been on a couple of dates with a guy who is quite shy. He tried to kiss me the first time but it didn’t work out (it was right at the end and I was going in for a hug) but we texted about that and we’re fine, communication is great. He said he never knows how to handle these things and I said I don’t enjoy it right at the end and that I like to wait a bit for a kiss usually (I said it in a nice way). Thought we may kiss today. I did some things that I think showed interest but he did say he can not pick up on things sometimes so he appreciates directness. Anyway! Date is over and I’m back home now. I’ll text him that I got home safe but I’d like to say something a bit cheeky to indicate either that next time I’d want to kiss him or that I would have liked to/been open to it today. What would work best to tell him? A flirty but effective little text EDIT: I’m asking for text ideas because I can be shy too with kissing especial...

I’m my own worst enemy and can’t get out of my own head....thankfully I have this sub so I can ask all my crazy shit without actually doing it. I went on a date recently. We’re 30. And despite all signs pointing to her liking me. I think I missed a que to kiss her at the end of the first date. So now I’m wondering if it’s better to feel it out, or just ask how she feels about me. Like I said...I’m my own worst enemy. Submitted November 05, 2020 at 12:08AM I’m my own worst enemy and can’t get out of my own head....thankfully I have this sub so I can ask all my crazy shit without actually doing it.I went on a date recently. We’re 30. And despite all signs pointing to her liking me. I think I missed a que to kiss her at the end of the first date.So now I’m wondering if it’s better to feel it out, or just ask how she feels about me.Like I said...I’m my own worst enemy.

I 26f am very thin/ somewhat underweight I guess. I’ve always been this way & I am over being insecure about it but I am always annoyed when MEN or ppl I’m not close with comment on my size a lot. I find that most people do not. This guy I went on a first date with kept saying you’re so little/tiny or we were talking about different foods I like some of them unhealthy and he was saying I don’t look like I eat that. He didn’t really comment on my appearance otherwise and I’m just wondering if it’s a red flag. I can’t tell if he doesn’t like that I’m smaller or if he does or why it should matter really at all. Other than that he was polite laid back and we got along well. He did ask me out again however I’m going to be annoyed if he brings it up again. Do you think this is a bad sign and how would you deal w this? Submitted November 05, 2020 at 12:20AM I 26f am very thin/ somewhat underweight I guess. I’ve always been this way & I am over being insecure about it but I a...

Wait H.P. Lovecraft was ace!? November 05, 2020 at 12:07AM

Hard same. Maybe it's my default Reddit sort, but I don't see the content referenced or really find the sub as helpful as I thought it'd be as it seems really sex-neutral/sex-favorable heavy and wanting to limit the "not as nice" aspects of asexuality (like loneliness or not fitting in or feeling happy with one's identity). I too feel like it's very "not all aces!" heavy and kinda wanting to not have sex-repulsed aces talk about their feelings, so I don't utilize it as a supportive forum since it doesn't really have that vibe for me. As an almost-mid 30s sex-repulsed asexual female whose never been in a relationship, I feel even weirder having come here than before I did. November 05, 2020 at 12:06AM

Don't stress yourself out buddy, it takes some time to really get to absolutely not care, and it's not easy, but you gotta have some confindence and think you can do it, and start trusting yourself more than others, I trust you will get there :) November 04, 2020 at 11:57PM