We go to college together, both have been single for over a year. I’m a freshman she’s a sophomore. We met bc we started studying for a class together. Totally platonic friendship (well it was). She’s not my type, I’m not hers. We both have crushes on other people, which the other knows well about. Firstly, I’m a virgin. I dated someone in high school for over a year but she was asexual, so we never did anything. Needless to say, I’m kinda deprived of sex. My friend is pretty experienced. I don’t really find her attractive to be honest. One day we were hanging out in her room. She invited me onto her bed. She started getting cuddly. But nothing too weird so I went with it. This happened a few more times. Until tonight. We were cuddling in her bed. And then she started kissing me. Sorta just happened. And then we started making out. And touching each other. She stopped and said that we need to make some rules. We said: 1. this isn’t gonna be an emotional thing, and 2. no penetration bc...

Okay long story short, I have only enjoyed sex with one person but have had sex with others and stopped in the middle of it every time bc I just wasn’t in to it. I would think maybe it’s because I don’t like them but it’s like every time I have sex now. I’m starting to think it is because I need the connection, but is anyone else the same way??? I am worried that I will never be able to have sex with anyone else again, am I in my own head to much? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 06:58AM Okay long story short, I have only enjoyed sex with one person but have had sex with others and stopped in the middle of it every time bc I just wasn’t in to it. I would think maybe it’s because I don’t like them but it’s like every time I have sex now. I’m starting to think it is because I need the connection, but is anyone else the same way??? I am worried that I will never be able to have sex with anyone else again, am I in my own head to much?

Please note that I am only talking about sexual attraction here: romantically, I am attracted to many different things, including personality. ​ I am sexually attracted to women. Specifically, their bodies. I am NOT attracted to their personalities. I am attracted to their ass, their tits, their curves, their pussies, how much pleasure they're feeling and how horny they are. Those are the things that turn me on, they're the things I focus on when I watch porn. My sexuality revolves around the female body. Often, when I'm walking around, I'll see a nice ass, and I'll think to myself "nice ass". ​ This is clear objectification. This is sexualization. To be sexually attracted to the female form, and nothing else, is to only care about the body of a woman, while paying no mind to who she is: it's gross, it's creepy, it's rapey, it's perverted, it's sexist, it's misogynistic. All things, outside of porn, that celebrate the male attr...

Honestly. I mean. How the hell do you stay on track when there's magic happening down there? It's kinda like... Oh yum, I do love his cock, mmm. Slurp. Cue sloppy blowjob (his favourite). Yeah, here we go, he's started down there, oh that feels so good. And then.. Holy shit balls! Fireworks being lit downstairs! What the hell are you doing with that magic tongue?! Did you just stick a finger in my ass too? Omg. Keep going. Mind goes completely blank. Wait. What am I meant to be doing? Sucking on that? Nah, fuck it. Oh my god. Yes. Yes. Keep going! Let's just make it about me! I'm gonna come! Keep going! Seriously. What's the point of those? (female half posting here, btw, in case that wasn't obvious) TLDR - wondering what the point of 69ers are when one partner gets so distracted.. Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:00AM Honestly. I mean. How the hell do you stay on track when there's magic happening down there?It's kinda like... Oh yum, I do...

31/M Like the title says I love my girlfriend and I enjoy all the time we spend together, but we haven't had sex since almost September and I'm having trouble controlling myself. I have been doing anything I can to be sexy for her and trying to hint and even flat out asked but nothing seems to be happening. We are both still very sexually attracted to each other but between the time of the month and random things happening we haven't done anything. I feel bad because I am approaching a wall and at this point I'm masturbating at least six times a day but it's just not cutting it anymore. What do i do? Even now my brain wants to be an asshole and look at other options and I don't want that. I can't keep jerking off I'm losing my mind. Any suggestions? Submitted April 20, 2019 at 07:08AM 31/M Like the title says I love my girlfriend and I enjoy all the time we spend together, but we haven't had sex since almost September and I'm having troub...

I was having this very conversation with a friend earlier, and he also brought up the point of bi and pan existing haha! I try to make it clear to most people that my partner’s gender doesn’t matter to me. He could come out as trans or non-binary to me tomorrow and my immediate response would be “okay, what should I call you now?” And absolutely nothing about the relationship would change haha April 20, 2019 at 07:22AM

Yeah, that's the part that concerns me. That others will see a couple and just for the fact that they're a man and a woman they'll go "well you're just cishet" when that's not only untrue but also severely short sighted (bi and pan people exist as well). April 20, 2019 at 07:20AM