Kind of a rant. But I cant fucking stand chatting. Either Im just really bad at it or super emotionally unavailable, but ts just so boring. HoW wAs YouR DaY? GoodMorNiNG. goOdNigHt. 🤮 Im not interested in sexting or nudes or anything like that either. Why cant it just be "Hey, lets meet at 19:00 at X bar on next Friday and forget about each other in the mean time?" "Sounds good lets do that!". When im at home and my partner is physically not there I just want to be in my little cave alone. Can you give me any example of non-boring chats? Submitted December 19, 2023 at 12:14AM Kind of a rant. But I cant fucking stand chatting. Either Im just really bad at it or super emotionally unavailable, but ts just so boring. HoW wAs YouR DaY? GoodMorNiNG. goOdNigHt. 🤮 Im not interested in sexting or nudes or anything like that either. Why cant it just be "Hey, lets meet at 19:00 at X bar on next Friday and forget about each other in the mean time?" "Sou...

Thankfully, I've rarely felt religious judgement for my asexuality, but I've been very vigilant for it and as an ace Christian who's always been super pro LGBT rights even before I knew I was ace, I have long been extremely intentional about finding Christian spaces that don't care what people are. In this case, whether or not you want to cut them out is up to you, but I have to ask a hard question - if you brought them a partner who was a nonbinary or trans or a woman, what do you think they would say or do? If your partner told you they were uncomfortable around these two and they didn't want to see them again, how would you respond? As for what you can do, if you want to try and reach them still, you can look into resources for progressive Christianity and all of the mountains of evidence that no one chooses to be gay. There are a lot of churches with scriptural stances on this that aren't just "All gay bad." Maybe do some research into those and...

Yeah my parents are like this .They are no longer in my life. This is the best way to deal with it. December 17, 2023 at 11:08PM

That is really hard, for both of you. You clearly love each other a lot and are really really mismatched. It will be hard to let it go, but I believe that is probably where you are heading. Most relationships from high school do not last as long as yours have. And it is probably time - neither of you are going to be happy like this. December 16, 2023 at 11:07PM

Can relate but I don't have any solutions for you unfourtunaly, being a grey ace is living between two worlds honestly. December 15, 2023 at 11:18PM

I think it doesn't really correlate with asexuality in my experience. I'm an ace who gets turned on and reads porn and masturbates. But I don't get turned on from seeing someone attractive being naked or posing suggestively. There are specific actions/scenarios/ideas that turn me on. Like the idea/depiction of someone experiencing sexual pleasure. But I'm not attracted to the characters and don't feel anything sexual directed at them. The things that would turn most people on, like the idea of doing something sexual with someone they find attractive, simply does nothing for me. In my opinion, using this "groinal response" analogy for asexuality makes it sound more like: we're sexually attracted to people and react physically, but emotionally we don't want it or are repulsed by it. But for me, I don't react physically to the same things allos do. So I think it's a misleading analogy. December 14, 2023 at 11:25PM

Yeah, i identify way more with the A-spec community than I do the LGBTQ community. We are fundamentally different than most other labels(with the complete or near complete lack of sexual attraction rather than attraction based on gender) a sexual minority group. As for the comments, there is no way to avoid them. they are literally discriminating against us for doing nothing, they are beyond help. December 13, 2023 at 11:03PM