That is an amazing presentation, very well done! Thank you! November 24, 2023 at 11:30PM

I'm 22 and am by no means ready November 24, 2023 at 11:30PM

I am afraid to call them out, they can act rather explosively at times, especially when you tell them they are wrong. Thank you for the reply! November 24, 2023 at 11:26PM

I struggle the most in the gay community I feel that. I want to engage with the pan aspect of my identity more, but a lot of the gay community seems to focus on sex specifically and it's annoying. Because so many people's romantic identity matches their sexuality, there's not spaces for queer romanticism that don't frequently cross over into sexuality. In contrast there are tons of spaces about hetero romance that don't focus on sex and at most occasionally allude to it. November 24, 2023 at 11:24PM

Here wondering the same. November 23, 2023 at 11:11PM

I think that's because allos go into a relationship because of sexual attraction. While asexuals don't have that extra noise, so our selection is more oriented towards long lasting stuff like personality, morals, etc November 22, 2023 at 11:32PM

I really like this reply. A lot of people feel a need to be physically and sexually desired and not having that can hurt. Either you two can figure out a way to compensate for that need not being filled or, as this commenter says, maybe you’re simply not compatible sexually. You could explore ethically non-monogamous relationships or understand that this is a barrier that maybe can’t be reconciled November 22, 2023 at 11:31PM