Hi r/dating_advice , the question is basically the title. I always hear that women like men with charisma but I'm unsure of what this means. Does it solely mean the guy is funny or does it mean they just make good conversation? I use to do pretty well dating until I got schizophrenia and my personality was basically destroyed. I've been slowly building myself back up but still lack a lot of confidence from all the shit I've dealt with. Because of this my personality became flat and I lost anything I could guess is charisma. I think I'm finally in a place where I could have a long term relationship though. Submitted September 08, 2023 at 12:16AM Hi r/dating_advice, the question is basically the title. I always hear that women like men with charisma but I'm unsure of what this means. Does it solely mean the guy is funny or does it mean they just make good conversation? I use to do pretty well dating until I got schizophrenia and my personality was basically des...

+1 September 06, 2023 at 11:31PM

You’re welcome! I haven’t met any asexuals outside of the internet myself so it’s definitely hard to feel validated. I agree it can be hard to announce yourself publicly, for me, only a few close friends know. Though it’s not like it comes up in regular conversation to even get the opportunity to discuss my sexuality. I think from my friend’s reactions most people don’t really care. September 06, 2023 at 11:26PM

A week 1/2 ago i (28M) met a (20F) via a dating app, we texted for a couple of days and eventually agreed up on a date that same week. Took her out to eat and later that night we ended up hooking up, I used protection this whole time (provided by her) til it was time to pull out and to our surprise protection had broke and I finished inside of her. We quickly cleaned up and i gave her some money for Plan B, (which I probably should've gotten it myself that exact moment but wasnt thinking correctly). I told her to keep intouch if she needs anything... which she hasn't, so I haven't really followed up. This happend last Wednesday and been stressing ever since. What's the next steps I should take from here? Submitted September 06, 2023 at 12:15AM A week 1/2 ago i (28M) met a (20F) via a dating app, we texted for a couple of days and eventually agreed up on a date that same week. Took her out to eat and later that night we ended up hooking up, I used protection this...

haha no way 😂 it's so much more common than i think people realise! September 04, 2023 at 11:27PM

when talking with your friends, it's important to keep in mind that, often, they may not understand because these concepts can be quite new to them. the spectrum of asexuality, including aegosexuality, can be complex and not everyone may fully understand it right away. you could start by explaining that attraction and fantasy are two separate things. just because an asexual person has sexual fantasies, it does not necessarily mean they want to act on them. you could use examples or metaphors that might help them understand better. it might also be useful to send them some resources on asexuality and aegosexuality, so they can do their own education! it's not always easy, but remember, your identity is valid, and only you can define it. if they don't understand your orientation right away, that's okay too. as long as they are respectful and support you. it's completely normal to grapple with these emotions and changes. just stay true to yourself and take your tim...

About 3 months now, so I'm still buzzing. Participated in a Pride March last week and danced until I couldn't stand. There was a lesbian woman on the stage in a fishnet bodysuit (well, she had a lesbian-striped fan so I'm making assumptions here), and it kind of confirmed my asexuality that I thought she looked 'pretty good' in it. September 04, 2023 at 11:25PM