A week 1/2 ago i (28M) met a (20F) via a dating app, we texted for a couple of days and eventually agreed up on a date that same week. Took her out to eat and later that night we ended up hooking up, I used protection this whole time (provided by her) til it was time to pull out and to our surprise protection had broke and I finished inside of her. We quickly cleaned up and i gave her some money for Plan B, (which I probably should've gotten it myself that exact moment but wasnt thinking correctly). I told her to keep intouch if she needs anything... which she hasn't, so I haven't really followed up. This happend last Wednesday and been stressing ever since. What's the next steps I should take from here? Submitted September 06, 2023 at 12:15AM A week 1/2 ago i (28M) met a (20F) via a dating app, we texted for a couple of days and eventually agreed up on a date that same week. Took her out to eat and later that night we ended up hooking up, I used protection this...

haha no way 😂 it's so much more common than i think people realise! September 04, 2023 at 11:27PM

when talking with your friends, it's important to keep in mind that, often, they may not understand because these concepts can be quite new to them. the spectrum of asexuality, including aegosexuality, can be complex and not everyone may fully understand it right away. you could start by explaining that attraction and fantasy are two separate things. just because an asexual person has sexual fantasies, it does not necessarily mean they want to act on them. you could use examples or metaphors that might help them understand better. it might also be useful to send them some resources on asexuality and aegosexuality, so they can do their own education! it's not always easy, but remember, your identity is valid, and only you can define it. if they don't understand your orientation right away, that's okay too. as long as they are respectful and support you. it's completely normal to grapple with these emotions and changes. just stay true to yourself and take your tim...

About 3 months now, so I'm still buzzing. Participated in a Pride March last week and danced until I couldn't stand. There was a lesbian woman on the stage in a fishnet bodysuit (well, she had a lesbian-striped fan so I'm making assumptions here), and it kind of confirmed my asexuality that I thought she looked 'pretty good' in it. September 04, 2023 at 11:25PM

Hey so I (28f) recently met someone (35m) who seems almost perfect for me. We get along great and we have the same niche interests, he tells me I’m his ideal type of girl. I’m super hesitant to take that seriously but you know, alright, cool. I’d say the same for him. He’s here visiting his parents though and lives far away. We have been hanging out a lot, I’ve had dinner with his parents twice but he was super hesitant to meet my dad. He calls to say hi and chat about whatever on the days we don’t hang out. He says he plans on coming back soon. I also refuse to get physical with him because I don’t do that stuff unless I’m forming a relationship with someone and since he lives far away that’s not realistic. He is fine with that and says he likes that about me. He’s very handsome and I have a hard time thinking he doesn’t get female attention. He also has been excited to introduce me to his friends. We met irl not through a dating app btw about two weeks ago. He leaves a week from to...

I attended a queer group in my high school led by one of ours teachers who is openly gay and yeah.. I was mostly feeling out of place.. and not really sure if the people (other than my 2 friends) approved of me being there but the teacher tried her best to learn.. and so did I.. despite being really uncomfortable and out of place there I tried my best to make this experience into a learning moment for my future in which I hope to pursue psychology in as an understanding and helpful professional. On the sadder hand I am still the only ace I know in real life :/ It gets overwhelmingly sad and lonely at times. Mostly when a friend who thought they were ace but then found a girlfriend and now they are kinda aphobic (though I still think they are a demi, but whatever, will find out after they break up) saying how "they were just traumatized" That sucks :/ September 02, 2023 at 11:29PM

You can sort of answer their worry before hand - "No, and I'm actually very happy being single :)" September 01, 2023 at 11:18PM