As a Spankophile (Spanko,) I find a large swath of dyed in the wool Spankos possibly even the majority to be effectively asexual outside of the singular act of spanking, and surrounding kinks, to the point where I assume most Spankos, Spankers and spankees are to at least some degree on the asexual spectrum. Many like myself are romantically and asthetically inclined, just not sexually. June 25, 2023 at 11:14PM

I’m a virgin to both, and I’ve survived 25.5 years June 25, 2023 at 11:07PM

Thank you for your detailed reply, I am sexually attracted to them but it’s more the act of sex I am put off by. I will look at someone and be sexually attracted but not want to have sex June 24, 2023 at 10:42PM

Hey, I'm also 25f and new to accepting this identity myself so may not be the best at giving advice. You said "never ever want to have sex , even if I am completely attracted to the person". I think what's key is, is that an aesthetic attraction or a sexual one? I've had to do a fair bit of reading to get an idea of what allos experience sexual attraction to be. Even then, from this Reddit I've seen some people describe feeling sexual attraction but not being interested in sex with another person, I believe it falls on the asexual spectrum. Certainly I can relate to many of the thoughts and experiences you've had June 24, 2023 at 10:40PM

Took it from a recent post but made it for the opposite gender. Submitted June 24, 2023 at 12:15AM Took it from a recent post but made it for the opposite gender.

You cannot control the fanfic machine. You can only choose not to read it. Or make your own in a "guess it's up to me" way. June 22, 2023 at 11:41PM

If i had a nickel for everytime i agreed to hangout with someone one on one because i was so stoked about having a new friend and they just wanted sex.... Id have enough cake and bread to feed the ace community. June 22, 2023 at 11:37PM